5 Ways of Coping With Depression

…Without the use of drugs!

There are numerous ways one can deal with depression without using drugs.  You are obviously going to get your Doctor or Psychiatrist going on about these treatments not being tested; things like certain supplements or having dubious results.

Well, compare the fact that vitamin C has likely not ever killed anyone.  There are some supplements that have a more erratic history but this information needs to be taken with the proper comparative data.

For example:

1. St John’s Wort – $55 million spent on this one annually in the US of A.  For the purpose of alleviating depression.  There are side effects of this one.  The majority of side effects, I have found, from the bit of research that I’ve done, is when taken in conjunction with pharmaceuticals that are also taken for the purposes of alleviating depression.  Pretty easy to find the side effects of these anti-depressant drugs.  As anything you take, do your own research and make sure that the products that you take play well together.

2. Exercise – The Mayo Clinic(http://www.mayoclinic.org) recommends exercise.  Exercise can help in a couple of ways according to their website. From a ‘chemical’ standpoint, it releases ‘good’ chemicals into your system(in a much more natural way than anti-depressants). Some of these are: neurotransmitters, endorphins and endocannabinoids.  Secondly, exercise tends to take your mind off your worries, increases confidence and pride and often gets one out and about so there is more social interaction.

3. EMpowerPlus: This is product developed in Alberta Canada by a company called TrueHope(http://www.truehope.com/depression.html) Lots of testimonials and accolades.  A combination of vitamins and minerals developed originally to specifically deal with BiPolar Disorder.  One of the developer’s wives committed suicide as a result of this mental disorder and was determined to come up with a natural solution, which seems to work for a LOT of people.

(More info at Amazon.com:  EMPowerplus Q96 – Improve Brain Function And Boost Mood, Mood Enhancement Supplement Stabilizer With Micronutrients, Multivitamins for Improved Mental Clarity, Focus, and Brain Health, 120 Capsules)

4. Fast Food – Keep Away… Per The Science Daily )https://www.sciencedaily.com) “…A 42% increase in the risk [of depression] associated with fast food was found,…”.  There are numerous studies showing the relationship of depression and fast/junk food.  This is not a simple change for many as with it comes a bit of a lifestyle change.  If you are not going to eat at McDonald’s or order in Chinese food, what are you going to do.  Learn to cook?  This will actually do a couple of things(learning to cook, I mean) – it will get you healthier, which will obviously lessen depression and it will also get you more active, so you don’t ‘think’ so much.

5. Go for a walk.  Likely one of the simplest and most effective.  This is a bit like the exercise thing but not exactly.  I heard a story once about a woman who was very depressed after having a baby.  After nothing else working, a friend took her out for a walk.  She make her walk away from her home until she almost couldn’t walk any more then return home. Within a few days she was completely better.  If you are going to try this one, don’t go out to ‘think’.  While walking, look at things or touch things.  Look at trees, buildings, fire hydrants, lampposts.  If you have to make a game with yourself, then look for thing of different shapes or sizes or colours or whatever.  Figure out the game as you go or before you go.  That way you are forcing your attention outwards instead of introspecting.  Always healthier that way.

I really hope that you try some of these things.

What Medications are Prescribed for Anger Management?

If you search Google for the above phrase … This is a much searched phrase – I have no idea how ‘much searched’ but it was given up by Google when I did a similar search.  The list that came up was:

Citalopram(aka: Celexa)

Escitalopram(aka: Lexapro, Cipralex)

Fluoxetine(aka: Prozac, Serafem)

Paroxetine(aka: Paxil, Paxil CR, Pexeva)

Sertraline(aka: Zoloft)

If you have these drugs in the house, put them in a safe and then throw the safe in the ocean.  A very deep ocean.

The side effects are generally much worse than the drug.  All the side effects listed here I’m taking directly from drugs.com.  (There are similar websites that list these drugs and their side effects – they are all pretty much the same.  But, please do your own research!

Here is the list with some of the side effects.  Remember that these drugs are for anxiety, depression and anger treatment:

Citalopram(Celexa) – 85 separate side effects from agitation, loss of memory, confusion to hallucinations and vomiting blood.

Escitalopram: side effects range from joint pain and trouble sleeping to convulsions and coma.  This is supposed to alleviate anger.  If you are not crazy already then you certainly will be if you take this shit!

Fluoxetine:(Prozac) – the side effects are endless – and I mean fucking endless –  for Prozac and a couple of biggies are ‘hostility’ and ‘suicidal tendencies’.  Wait a minute! – taking this for anger and just one of the side effects is hostility?  I assure you this is no joke.  OK.  In my research – please do your own – I found many instances of people on Prozac wanting to hurt themselves and others.  This seems to be a pretty consistent underlying theme for this drug.  So much for Prozac for anger treatment!

Paroxetine(Paxil): Side effects here include: ‘convulsions’ and ‘blindness’.  Well, that would certainly get rid of my anger.(Yes, that was sarcasm in case you weren’t sure…!)  Here is a cool story.  It’s short, don’t worry, if you have ADHD, you will still be able to get through it.  A young guy at the gym(well, young compared to me) told me that when he was quite young, his school wanted to put him on Ritalin. His grandfather found out, got him enrolled martial arts and he never had to take any drugs.  That makes a bit more sense to me.  Got him active and burned off excess energy.  Probably ate better as well because he was exercising so much.

Sertraline(Zoloft): you are safer taking heroin.  I’m serious.  Go read the side effects.  And remember, whether these side effects are listed as rare or common, they are listed because they happen.

So, bottom line – your child or teen is angry or depressed.  Or maybe having anxiety or panic attacks.  So, instead of checking diet, allergies, activity level or lack thereof, you go to the doctor and ask for a drug to help.  Honestly, that’s cruel.  That doctor has not done his research and probably has less idea than you what is good for your child.  Doctors learn about drugs and fixing things.  They do not learn about causes and sources of problems.  They rarely learn about nutrition.

I always thought that the ‘Say No to Drugs’ campaigns were a fucking waste of time!  In the 80s and 90s, you had, on one hand good groups going around trying to get agreement about drugs being bad and on the other the pharmaceutical industry marketing drugs directly to the customer through television and magazines, etc.  Who won?  Guess? The bad guys.

This from villages-news.com :

“Then came the statement of another pharmaceutical CEO, J. Michael Pearson of Valeant Pharmaceuticals: “If products are sort of mispriced and there’s an opportunity, we will act appropriately in terms of doing what I assume our shareholders would like us to do.” In essence, these two men are saying: Pharmaceuticals are in the business of shareholder profit, not helping the sick.”

There are no tests to show the efficacy of the above listed drugs.  There are numerous studies showing things like nutrition and certain supplements are much more effective, particularly in the long run, than any of the products put out by Big Pharma.

So, if you need anger treatment or anxiety treatment or something for depression, spend a little longer doing some research.  Find out what works and what doesn’t.  Your doctor likely won’t tell you the truth for a couple of reasons. One, is that he or she just doesn’t know the answer and two, they don’t have the time allotted, in an appointment with you, to check you out thoroughly enough to do a proper diagnosis.

A great book on this is ‘A Dose of Sanity’ by Sydney Walker Jr., Psychiatrist.

Is Your Child or Teen Depressed?

Well, take some fucking responsibility! 

How much TV do they watch?  How much TV do you watch.  How much sugar do they eat? How much sugar to you eat?  Do you fight with your husband/wife?  How much time do you spend with them? I’m not fucking taking about watching TV together. How many sit down family meals do you have a day? A Week?

How much time do they spend on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or whatever?

Now, in addition to TV and all the rest as a form of ‘baby-sitting’ parents will resort to pharmaceuticals as they cannot tolerate the ‘noise’ of their children.  Mom comes home from a long, long day and is too tired to deal with the kids demands.  So, give them some Ritalin or Prozac or something similar.  Fuck!

Families have devolved over the last 50 – 60 years.  I would even really call what exists today in most cases a family. Mom and dad are never around and when they are they really aren’t.  The payments on the mortgage, cars et al are so much more important than kids and family. So, you say, “I’m doing this for my kids, my family!” Oh bullshit!  You are doing it to impress the neighbours or your boss or somebody.  Move into a smaller house, let the kids share a room.  The kids will do better.

And what are these drugs going to do to your children or teens?

This from The National Institute of Mental Health

“Recently, there has been some concern that the use of antidepressant medications themselves may induce suicidal behavior in youths.”

Bupropion (Wellbutrin) side effects: (taken from www.drugs.com)

“Anger, assaulting others, attacking others, being aggressive, seizures; seeing, hearing  or feeling things that are not there(nice way of saying hallucinations); having extreme distrust of people(nice way of saying ‘paranoid’); severe headaches; irregular hearbeats(are you kidding me!!);” 

Floxetine(Prozac): (again from www.drugs.com)

The side effects of Prozac could fill a book and much too lengthy and detailed to list here.  They include: ‘stopping of the heart’ and ‘thoughts of killing oneself’. Huh?  (That is called irony.)

How do you fix it?

It takes a little time and attention.  I used to advocate homeschooling(still do, really).  I think it is a tremendous thing if you can do it.  Way back when, mom used to stay at home.  She took care of the house, raised the kids.  Taught things like manners and some basic life skills.  Kids would generally learn from someone how to do stuff around the house.  Minimally from watching – mimicry is how babies learn.  Kids would learn how to do laundry, cook, dishes, balance a check book.  TV was just coming into its own as a baby sitter.  But my observation over the years watching friends and acquaintances raise their kids have shown me that the common denominator kids turning out to be decent adults is parents that spent time with their kids.  I’ve known kids in private school – away from home.  Mom and dad call them almost every day.  Find out concerns and sometimes just listen.  They are not just parking their kids. Public school parents that work with their kids on homework or spend time at the school.

All this helps people become competent.  Esteem comes from competence not freakin’ being giving a pass just because you exist.  Kids that have shitty esteem are going to often become depressed.  Years ago some psychobabble idiot decided that kids should be passed a grade even if they weren’t qualified to pass.  Fucking stupid.  You think the kid doesn’t know he or she didn’t pass?  Idiots all.  And this creeps into the family situation. Kid thinks you are fucking mean for asking him to take out the garbage or wash the dishes.  Self esteem comes from competence.  Competence comes from doing shit.  So, do some shit with your kids. Let them make some mistakes and learn.  Make sure they understand that making a mistake isn’t the fucking end of the world.  That is part of learning.

And guess what, when your kids have more self esteem, they are a whole lot less likely to get depressed.  Oh, and being on Facebook, Instagram or playing video games is NOT doing stuff!  It is about as far as you can get from doing stuff.

And that small child that is breaking things and being destructive. Dollars to donuts he or she just wants some fucking attention.  Not money. Attention.  Spend some time.  

Best way to teach a kid is ask him, “What do you want to learn today?”  (But you gotta start that one early.)   And how do you fix the wallowing kid that is depressed all the time? By degrees.  Spend the time.  And NO!!! fucking drugs.  And don’t listen to the psychobabble, listen to your kid!  Don’t talk, listen!

And cancel the fucking newspaper and stop watching the news on TV.  Altogether.  And the worst is the so called news on Facebook.  Block that shit.

If you are such a weanie that you don’t want to or won’t spend time with your kid, then, seriously, put him or her or it up for adoption. 

Enabling Depression

Are you enabling your depressed friend?

Stop fucking enabling!  It’s pretty much the same as enabling an alcoholic; they’ve got to hit what they think is the bottom.  I”m not say that you should be mean here; being mean is never, ever better than kindness.  And sympathy will kill them dead.  I really hate the phrase ‘tough love’.  I think it can let people justify being mean and calling it love or kindness in some sick way.  So, be there for your friend who is depressed, listen, don’t enable and if you let them run from you and go to a Doctor or psychiatrist to get some mind numbing drugs, I’ll rip your face off.

I have a nephew who is an alcoholic.  I was his last chance.  His parents, especially his mother enabled him for years.  He just kept getting worse and worse. He came to live with me.  Third time he got drunk and didn’t show up for work, I took his stuff and left it on the porch of the buddy he went drinking with.  The buddy, whose couch he slept on that night came out screaming, ‘He can’t stay here!’ as I drove away.  After that, I helped him by driving to the food bank and some other basic things but never gave him any money.  It took some time but he now has been stabling working and living and taking care of a family for several years.  In his eyes, I can do no wrong.

I never told him he was bad, just the opposite – he is quite capable but alcohol is pretty deadly stuff.

Well, please, wake the fuck up.  Depression and anxiety are not much different. I know that the person with ‘Depression’ feels that they are not really understood, that no one ‘gets’ them.  Pretty much the same as the alcoholic or druggie.  So, what the fuck, you get depressed.  Everyone does.  People get angry.  People get bored.  People get sarcastic.  People get cheerful. All of these things are part of being human, dummy.  Next thing you know the fucking pharmaceutical industry and the psychiatrists will start calling normal a disease.  (Oh fuck, they did already – I’m not kidding.)  Get the point, these assholes are not in it for you. They want your money.  MONEY!!  It’s called the Pharmaceutical Industry for a reason.  It is an Industry.  So, reason for existence is to rake in the dineros.

So, if you tell your friend, “Oh, you poor thing, it is all so bad, boo hoo, you have been so hard done by…”  Fuck Off!! – you make my skin crawl!  That is not gong to help anyone.  You may think you are helping but that is not effective help.  You want to help, take them for a walk and get them to look at things and come out of their depression and not wallow in it, not talk about it.  Be kind but don’t let them wallow.  Give them some B vitamins.  Throw away the newspapers.  Get them to stop watching the news on the TV.  Get them to block all the fucking bullshit on Facebook!  Who needs that shit.  That is some effective help.  Drugs – that is not effective help.  That is just fucking stupid.

Drugs have so many freakin’ side effects and doctors prescribe them because they are paid to, not because they have any idea of benefits.  My father was a doctor for most of his life in a third world country.  For free.  Near the end he told me that because of Big Pharma, he didn’t know if he’d helped or harmed more people.  That is from a very conscientious doctor.

If you don’t know how to help your friend and can figure out how to contact me, I’ll try and help.  I’ll put some links on this site at some point to what I consider effective solutions.