I hear people tell me or express that they are really down when they don’t get something right. A task they have set out to do or something at a new job. Whatever. Generally it is something they have not done before or not done very often. If you are going to get ‘down’ the first time or first few times you try and fail, then you may end up not being very successful. Some people even think they committed some kind of travesty by not doing whatever it is correctly – they are bad or something.
Rarely, do I see this as bad intentions. Probably too many parents scolding their kids for trying to help and screwing up just because they are kids. So, basically, you are telling your kid they are an asshole for being a kid.
There is that old story about Babe Ruth – got more home runs than anyone else at the time. He also swung out more times than anyone else. If he hadn’t been swinging, he wouldn’t have been pitched out would he? And of course he would not have not have become a legend.
A good photographer has likely taken more bad photos than you have taken pictures period.
Edison – the inventor of the lightbulb:
‘Reporter: ”How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?”
Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.” ‘
You think Edison didn’t get distraught, disappointed or depressed. So, even if it something like training yourself to not dwell on bad things or thoughts, it may take some practice. Keep at it. Did you do it a bit better today than yesterday? Pretend you are an athlete – first time out you are not going to do a 4 minute mile. It is all about gradients – working up to it over time.
Don’t make the mistake of training your body and mind to need drugs as a solution. Once you go that route it gets harder and harder to come back.